tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21010853933823240702024-03-05T05:07:35.534-05:00Responsibly Guiding Your Child Athlete...Tips and advice for sports parents.Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.comBlogger86125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-36490586131972317262014-04-30T22:21:00.000-04:002014-04-30T22:21:23.088-04:00Spend Time with the RIGHT people...Following LA Clippers owner Donald Sterling's alleged racist comments, the NBA <a href="http://espn.go.com/los-angeles/nba/story/_/id/10857580/donald-sterling-los-angeles-clippers-owner-receives-life-ban-nba" target="_blank">banned</a> Sterling for life. Instead of focusing on how wrong Sterling's comments were, I choose to focus on what young athletes (and others) can do now.<br />
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Lifebuzz.com has a recent article which offers inspirational advice in a recent post: <a href="http://www.lifebuzz.com/start-doing/#!EbwBB" target="_blank">30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself</a>. I encourage all of you to click on this link and take notice of #1. Start spending time with the right people. Young athletes grow and learn everyday. Sure, these kids are seeing the controversy following Sterlings' alleged comments. However, young athletes can and should learn how separation from this type of negatively and racism specifically is eminent.<br />
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Please encourage your kids to spend time with the right people. Stop racism.<br />
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<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-24264139388104133422013-12-31T19:50:00.000-05:002013-12-31T19:50:02.108-05:00Cheers to 2014!I hope you are all out celebrating the New Year this evening. If not, you should be. The 2013 year is coming to end, so this is a time for new beginnings. Believe it.<br />
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What I ask of you tonight is to have a little faith. Faith can go a long way. If you believe even simply a small amount that you are your child will progress in some way, I promise you it will happen. Life is good.<br />
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My dad has spent the last 4 weeks or so in the hospital. Somehow my husband and I have managed to cover work, travel, kids, and vigilance at the Cleveland Clinic. Additionally, we managed to shop for Christmas gifts and somewhat enjoy the holidays. The best news is that Dad is recovering. I'm seriously delirious right now, but somehow all has been and is good.<br />
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I'm sure Dad's strength had something to do with his recovery (which is still in progress). However, a touch of teamwork between me, my brother, sister, and mom have led to round-the-clock vigilance and what I'd like to believe led to optimal medical care. Dad had a slight relapse, and we all pulled together and watched and monitored (and made a few suggestions…) towards his medical care. Maybe I'm naive, but I truly believe it helped the situation. When there is a will there is a way. And as the Nike saying goes--Just Do It!<br />
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Bottom line, believe in yourself, your child athlete, and in a higher power. Success is unlimited. Please be rational, and take action for yourself, your child, and for those in need. This is what life is all about.<br />
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We wish you all a very happy, healthy, and prosperous 2014!Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-85136289448974312152013-10-31T22:48:00.002-04:002013-10-31T22:48:22.468-04:00Ban the Dyes...Bright red, blue, green fruit snacks…yum. Picture red jello squares. Does your mouth water? Now picture clear jello squares. Tasty? Maybe not. Without the color, there is without a doubt less appeal (unless you actually taste the food).<br />
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Most food manufacturers add dyes to many, many foods. For example, yogurt, cranberry juice, popsicles, pop tarts, and even macaroni and cheese often contain dyes including red 40 or blue 5. These dyes have no nutritional value and for purely aesthetic value--the color draws you to the product, but it does not improve the taste.<br />
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Having no nutritional value does not mean an ingredient has no affect on our bodies. I'm a firm believer these dyes can highly affect children and adults with a variety of reactions. I first learned the side effect of dyes when my son at approximately 6 months olds took a liquid antibiotic. He went through 3 rounds of antibiotics for an ear infection, yet none of the 3 worked. A very wise pediatrician questioned a potential reaction to the dye in the medication. The fourth type of antibiotic, which was white, worked like a charm.<br />
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Was I overreacting? Do you think like my mother--it was just a fluke? You are wrong. Soon after the initial experience, I began paying close attention to dyes in foods. Cameron definitely slept less, ate less, and was fussier after consuming various foods with dyes.<br />
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Several years after that first experience with medications and dyes, we moved and were forced to change pediatricians. Well, the new pediatrician thought I had completely lost my mind with my aversion to dyes. Cameron was diagnosed with strep throat and the doctor refused to give him the usual white medication. He wanted to begin treatment with a medium strength medication which contained dyes.<br />
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The medication trial was a huge mistake. Within a week Cameron's strep throat progressed several to the degree we ended up in the ER. The ER doc again thought I was nuts (after listening to the background story). The doc warned us that it was almost impossible for a child to test positive for strep while taking the antibiotic that Cameron was taking, even if the meds were not working.<br />
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Long story short, Cameron tested positive for strep while taking the lovely purple antibiotic. I've never seen such a perplexed medical staff. The doc and nurses immediately rushed to Cameron with IV fluids and antibiotics.<br />
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This story is leading to a sports connection… When Cameron was approximately 5 years old, he started playing t-ball. For the most part, he was a pretty good little player. However, one day out of the blue, Cameron couldn't catch or throw a ball to save his life. He was turning around backwards on the pitcher's mound, getting hit by the ball in the head, back, or wherever, and sitting down randomly while the ball was in play. This was behavior we had never seen before.<br />
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After the game ended we asked Cameron what he had eaten earlier at the neighbor's house. It turned out he had eaten several popsicles, which are full of food dyes. There was clearly another strong reaction going on to these additives.<br />
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Earlier this week, the Today Show featured a mom campaigning against food dyes. You can read the story <a href="http://www.today.com/news/concerned-mom-campaigns-against-artificial-dyes-candy-8C11479395" target="_blank">here</a>. I'm pleased to see the topic is being brought to light. Please check it out, and please believe the effects are real.<br />
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Following the above story, Kraft Foods has agreed to remove artificial dyes from macaroni and cheese and other products. Check out the story <a href="http://www.foodmanufacturing.com/news/2013/10/kraft-remove-artificial-dyes-three-products?et_cid=3571475&et_rid=333546157&type=cta" target="_blank">here</a>. I'm happy to see change. I wish I had petitioned for this years ago.<br />
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In the meanwhile, if you choose to avoid artificial dyes, I recommend shopping at stores such as Trader Joe's which tends to carry natural products. Another trick I learned over the past years is to search generic product ingredients. For some strange reason, generic products tend to have less additives, at least in my experiences.<br />
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If you suspect your child athlete reacts to food dyes, please try eliminating these foods from his or her diet. I will be surprised if you do not see good results. I'm a firm believer.<br />
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<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-31059483055087455732013-08-07T22:41:00.000-04:002013-08-07T22:41:56.803-04:00A-Rod--Guilty?Did A-Rod take banned performance-enhancing drugs? I suppose in my book he is innocent until proven guilty. However, he likely walked the line.<br />
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Many athletes consume energy drinks, such as Gatorade or Powerade, to add some potential energy. And some athletes take vitamin shakes or vitamin supplements, such as B12, which are legal substances. In my day, we took decongestants like Sudafed (which are now often banned in sports) for that extra energy burst. To a degree, these are performance-enhancing substances, yet they were legal in the past and some are legal now.<br />
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Top-notch athletes often look for the next best thing to add an edge to their game. Why not? If you feel better and you are faster or stronger or it helps your game in some way and substance is legal, I say <i>take it</i>, <i>use it</i>, <i>do it</i>. But do NOT cross the fine line. Stay on the legal side. Stay within the rules and win fairly. Winning feels better when it is fair.<br />
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I do not know if A-Rod is innocent or guilty. I certainly hope he turns out to be innocent. Let's not judge until he has had a fair verdict. For now, try not to jump to conclusions.Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-5694228525560325702013-04-16T22:32:00.000-04:002013-04-16T22:32:54.251-04:00Pray for the Boston Marathon Victims and Their Families...My prayers are with the Boston Marathon bombing victims and their families. This is a tragedy beyond comprehension.<br />
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On a positive note, I was proud to hear about the many amazing acts of heroism, selflessness, and even flat-out thankfulness. It appears that first-responders and emergency personnel were key in getting the distressing event under control.<br />
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I have also to point out that many marathon participants, onlookers, and others performed integral actions in helping others. Many runners immediately went to hospitals and offered to give blood. Others took action helping the wounded. And some even showed courage while fear was beyond comprehension.<br />
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Bottom line--teamwork. Please learn from this tragedy and value people working together for a common goal. Everyone on a team is important from the weakest link to the strongest.<br />
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If you'd like to help, please considering donating and retweeting the following:<br />
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You can help by donating at <a href="http://t.co/8r1S1P96Vg" title="http://www.patriots.com/donate">patriots.com/donate</a> with "Boston Marathon" in the message field. <a href="https://twitter.com/search/%23thankyou">#thankyou</a><br />
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Thanks in advance to all who are supporting this recovery.<br />
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PEACE will prevail.<br />
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Kim<br />
Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-81551825442285498502013-02-04T17:17:00.000-05:002013-02-04T17:17:54.521-05:00Super Bowl Highlights and Lance Armstrong LowlightsSuper Bowl 2013--Fantastic! Like it or not, the Baltimore Ravens beat the San Francisco 49ers 34-31.<br />
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The game made history with a blowout first half (Ravens took a 21-6 lead), a spectacular Beyonce halftime performance (no lip-syncing and lots of dynamic dancing), a power outage (resulting in 30+ minute game delay), and a momentum-shift second half (49ers nearly took the lead).<br />
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Stepping back to the Lance Armstrong scandal, I believe enough has been said already. I can't seriously believe anything that Armstrong says or does is legitimate considering all the lies over the years. And that's all I'm going to say because I do not believe he deserves any further publicity.<br />
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The people who deserve the limelight right now are Ravens quarterback Joe Flacco and 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick. These two guys were phenomenal, in addition to the rest of their teammates. I was most impressed with how all the players remained calm throughout.<br />
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If this mom (and non-football player) followed the game (and actually understood what was going on), then you know it was a great game. Sorry, moms, I'm sure many of you know the ins and outs of football, but many of us females still struggle a bit. Have you ever seen me throw a ball? Don't even bother to picture it. I once threw the remote control across the room to Ed, not AT Ed, and the remote hit his glass of wine (which immediately broke and stained the carpet, needless to say).<br />
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One last issue to mention...President Obama commented on concussions and football. In my next post, I will rant yet again.<br />
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Congratulations, Joe Flacco and the Baltimore Ravens!<br />
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-KimKim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-85510716857955669352013-01-17T16:00:00.000-05:002013-01-17T16:00:24.750-05:00Fall from Grace?Tour-de-France superstar Lance Armstrong appears on Oprah tonight. Following years of years of alleged scandal, what precisely will Armstrong address and what will he admit? That remains to be seen.<br />
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You can view the two-night worldwide exclusive tonight (Jan. 17) at 9/8c on <a href="http://www.oprah.com/own_tv/onc/lance-armstrong-one.html" target="_blank">OWNTV</a>.<br />
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I'll comment after both shows air.<br />
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-KimKim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-34941972769624001072012-12-04T08:21:00.000-05:002012-12-04T08:21:29.209-05:00Revisiting Resilience...I'm finally getting back to the resilience topic. Better late than never...(as the saying goes).<br />
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Given the fact that it has taken me over a month to write this post, I'm certain resilience is an important topic. And I am a good example. My intention to write this post weeks ago were good, but life got in my way--Thanksgiving, work projects, youth sports games...blah, blah, blah.<br />
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At last, I stepped back and looked at my process. Without resilience, I might have shut my blog down and disappeared. Instead, I determined that writing in the morning before my day begins might solve my problem. Even if I didn't write the entire post in one day, at least it would be a step in the right direction...progress...words are on the screen.<br />
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Resilience means bouncing back, persevering, not letting negative outcomes or results or lack of progress get you down. Did Michael Jordan stop playing basketball when he was cut from his High School basketball team? No. He clearly moved forward and became one of the best professional basketball players in the world.<br />
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My point here is that you should help your child persevere when he or she loves a sport. With or without talent, he or she can always improve and become a better player. Keep your eyes open for opportunities to help her learn or even to step back in order to progress forward.<br />
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For the last several years my son Cameron was quite a bit smaller than other players in his age group. Cameron had to work hard to earn a spot on a high-level hockey team. At last he grew this summer and is now average size. And he now stands out as a strong, skilled player. Last year you would have never noticed him on the ice. He blended in and barely held his own.<br />
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I am thankful Cameron kept trying out for a high-level hockey team year after year and kept working hard. He is now where he wants to be and hopes to go beyond. We are yet again looking at the process and deciding what steps he can take to progress even further.<br />
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Circumstances, players, coaches, teams, etc. are forever changing. Your child can adapt. You can adapt. You can learn from good experiences and learn from bad experiences, as well. Just help your child to continue moving forward. Embrace resilience.<br />
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I would love to hear your stories on how your child athlete has remained resilient resulting in a positive outcome. Please post your comments...<br />
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<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-52163202204284662192012-10-31T23:36:00.002-04:002012-10-31T23:36:36.074-04:00Resilience...Today, I recommend listening to this <a href="http://www.positivecoach.org/our-story/pca-in-the-news/news-detail/140/bruce-bochy-video-%3E%3E?utm_source=h5m&utm_medium=e&utm_campaign=mom" target="_blank">video</a> of Bruce Bochy, San Francisco Giants Manager, posted on The Positive Coaching Alliance web site. Coach Bochy elaborates on how young athletes can develop resilience and why it is important.<br />
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Resilience is key for successful young athletes. I've seen many parents protect their kids from failures and to a degree from defeat in sports. You know the type--the mom who doesn't allow her son to try out for a high-level team and risk getting cut. Instead, she guides her son to a local, lower-level team.<br />
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Please watch the video (link above) and ponder this. Tomorrow, I will write another post on the topic because I have a lot more to say...<br />
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<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-45165705945532985182012-08-16T06:27:00.002-04:002012-08-16T06:30:17.545-04:00Kindle the Fire...Last night, my daughter Breea was trying to choose an audition song for the church festival. I attempted to help her choose a song that she could actually sing well. However, she had a different path in mind...<br />
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Needless to say...after filming several videos of Breea singing an appropriate audition song (which she sang quite well, in my opinion), she decided to let all rules fall by the wayside. Was the song of Breea's preference appropriate for a church festival? No. But I could see the passion behind her singing, and that was somewhat shocking.<br />
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<li>2011 world all-around champion gymnast Jordyn Wieber failed to qualify for the Olympic all-around finals. Yet she persevered and helped lead the U.S. team to gold. </li>
<li>Gymnast Gabby Douglas was the underdog, but pulled herself together and won the all-around gold. In my opinion, she became mentally exhausted (and possibly physically exhausted) from all the pressure, then struggled a bit in the event finals.</li>
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I’m a firm believer that success is always possible eventually… One word sums it up for me: Believe.</div>
<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-31505090030123662172012-06-22T15:49:00.000-04:002012-06-22T15:49:38.441-04:00Go, Mom, Go!A youth hockey mom ran onto the ice and yelled at the refs for not stopping several fights (which had gone on for an excessive amount of time) last weekend. This episode occurred during a tournament game, so the players were likely appalled by the mom's actions.<br />
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You can view the video clip on <b>Inside Edition</b> <a href="http://www.insideedition.com/news/8399/hockey-mom-who-split-up-fight-on-the-ice-speaks-out.aspx" target="_blank">here</a>.<br />
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If I ran out on the ice, my boys would have been mortified. But...I have to admit that given the right circumstances, I would have done the same thing as the mom in the video. I will cross the humiliation line when it comes to protecting my children.<br />
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I will do whatever is necessary to keep my children safe. I will speak up and stop a parent from beating his child at a store. I will confront a teacher if I hear her berating a child in a classroom. I will immediately stop a child molester from touching a child inappropriately.<br />
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Is running onto the ice to stop a hockey fight any different from these scenarios? In my opinion, no. It is protecting children. Point blank.<br />
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Truth be told, I have stopped a parent from beating his child in a Target store. I have reprimanded a coach for inappropriate coaching during a game (I have only done this one time in 17 years, btw). I have even stood between an irate parent and a coach during a heated discussion in order to stop potential punches.<br />
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My children have all been embarrassed by my actions at one time or another. However, my actions are no different than enforcing bedtimes. There are just some things that are mandatory.<br />
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I beg you...protect your children.<br />
<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-32651701908265717112012-06-05T20:20:00.000-04:002012-06-05T20:20:19.322-04:00Good and Bad SportsmanshipInside Edition featured a couple of videos which displayed good and bad sportsmanship. Check it out at: <a href="http://www.insideedition.com/news/8326/good-sportsmanship-wins-out.aspx" target="_blank">GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP WINS OUT</a>.<br />
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I find it amazing that some people get caught up in excitement in extreme ways. The young girl in the first video was about to place first in a huge race, yet she stopped to help an ailing competitor. The older girl in the second video pulled a pair of cleats right out of a young child's hands.<br />
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I think that older girl (more specifically 45 years old I believe) could use some counseling. She should certainly have the ability to control herself and not go gaga over a star football player.<br />
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In my opinion, sportsmanship comes down to a combination of personality, how a child is raised, and what a child has been taught. What do you think?<br />
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<i>Disclaimer: I'm not a medical expert in this area, so please seek professional medical attention if you suspect your child has a concussion.</i><br />
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Our son Cameron suffered a concussion during a hockey game a few months ago. Yes, he took a direct hit to the head. But his symptoms were minor and he stayed in the game. The coach noticed he was mentally responding a tad slower than usual so he limited his playing time.<br />
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After removing his helmet at the end of the game, Cameron said that he immediately had a headache and was nauseous. <br />
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Later in the evening, Cameron's headache symptoms progressed by the hour. In the morning, the headache persisted and he mentioned that he couldn't concentrate. Ed and I both noticed his focus seemed off.<br />
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Mistake #1: We assumed he was getting a virus and was trying to get out of going to school. Wrong. He was really in true pain with a pounding headache. At a doctor visit later in the day, the doc verified that Cameron had a concussion.<br />
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The doctor analyzed the symptoms and administered an <a href="http://impacttest.com/about/background" target="_blank">Impact test</a> (cognitive baseline test), comparing the results to the test Cameron had taken before the season began.<br />
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We (Ed and I) quickly learned that sending Cameron to school was a big no-no. To heal the brain, it is best to rest. That means flat out no concentrating, no focusing, no watching TV and no playing video games.<br />
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What the heck? In my day, if your head hurt, you sucked it up. Ed likely had numerous concussions (what hockey player hasn't taken a hit to the head?), yet he never took a day off. Staying out of the game and out of school seemed insane to us.<br />
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Times have changed. I can understand why. Cameron was unable to focus. I noticed this immediately upon seeing his schoolwork scores drop in one day. He couldn't answer simple questions with a normal response.<br />
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Mistake #2: We ignored minor symptoms which appeared after Cameron had been cleared by the doctor and returned to practice. Although he had minor headache after returning to physical activities, we allowed Cameron to play in a game (without a re-check by the doctor). The result was a second concussion approximately three weeks after the first.<br />
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He barely got hit in the head, yet full-blown concussion symptoms returned later that evening following the game. This time he even appeared much worse as I could see the pain in face. His eyes were half open and his face was definitely flush. He went to watch another hockey game that even and several people noticed that he didn't look well.<br />
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So I now emphasis to all parents (and to myself) <i>follow the appropriate return-to-play guidelines</i>. If your child returns too soon after a concussion, there is a higher risk of a second concussion. To see recommended return-to-play guidelines, go to this <a href="http://www.sportsconcussions.org/return-to-play.html" target="_blank">link</a>.<br />
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The most important (and probably the most neglected) guideline is to <i>return to the previous step if any concussion symptoms occur</i>. I beg you to pay attention to this advice.<br />
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With a second concussion, Cameron remained out of physical activity for nearly a month. He still has not returned to competitive play two months later. I plan on holding him out as long as possible since the hockey season is now over.<br />
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Fortunately his symptoms have not returned. Fingers crossed that his brain heals well enough (and is strong enough) to safely return to the game in time for next season's tryouts (in late May). We will definitely have the doctor preform a re-check shortly before he returns to game play. I pray that we avoid mistake #3.<br />
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<br />Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-73573969024562715512012-02-29T13:09:00.002-05:002012-02-29T13:25:52.133-05:00Kids and Knee InjuriesIf you're not aware already...the number of knee injuries is on the increase for young athletes.<br /><br />The Today Show had a segment on this topic yesterday, Feb. 28. In the first part of the story, you will hear from Dr. Theodore Ganley, director of sports medicine at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia. I'm biased because I've worked directly with Dr. Ganley in the past. His insight and research are amazing.<br /><br />You can view the video here: <a href="http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/#46554979" target="_blank">http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/<wbr>26184891/vp/#46554979</a><br /><br />I have to admit that I hear of knee injury after knee injury from coaches whom I've interviewed in the past. Tearing an ACL is almost commonplace these days.<br /><br />Injury prevention is key, so please, do what you can to keep your child injury-free...Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-37319901835545962062011-12-07T15:02:00.002-05:002011-12-07T16:01:54.217-05:00More Abuse...After I blogged last month on child abuse, there have been several high-profile abuse allegations. Both <a href="http://news.blogs.cnn.com/2011/11/27/syracuse-basketball-coach-fired-amid-sex-abuse-investigation/">Syracuse</a> basketball coach Bernie Fine and former <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/07/jerry-sandusky-scandal-taken-out-home-handcuffs_n_1134216.html">Penn State</a> assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky were accused of multiple counts of sex abuse. Disgusting.<br /><br />How does this happen? Honestly, I'm not certain. But one thing I am certain of is that I want to protect my children.<br /><br />I have personally met sexual abusers and suspected sexual abusers. My fifth grade math teacher went to jail for molesting students during class. I also know a coach who was repeatedly accused of sexual abuse, but no charges were ever filed. Based on a few personal observations, here are several signs of potential abuse:<br /><ul><li>Coaches lingering around showers.</li><li>Kids sitting on coaches laps.</li><li>Coaches being overly friendly (or too touchy...).<br /></li><li>Coaches selectively giving lavish or excessive gifts.<br /></li></ul>More signs to watch for are noted on <a href="http://www.protectkids.com/abuse/abusesigns.htm">ProtectKids.com</a> and at <a href="http://yourlife.usatoday.com/parenting-family/story/2011-11-09/Penn-State-scandal-sparks-discussion-about-signs-of-child-sex-abuse/51143894/1">USAToday.com</a>. Of course, you need to use basic common sense to determine if a coach or another adult is crossing the line. My best advice is when in doubt, keep your child away from a potential abuser. Go with your gut.<br /><br />Please, keep your children safe. Just my two cents...<br /><br />KimKim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-66093312394675974732011-11-03T19:49:00.002-04:002011-11-03T20:03:25.812-04:00Child Abuse--Protect Your Child...I'm thoroughly disgusted by the the video released today (for which I will not post a link) of a Texas judge whipping his 16-year-old daughter with a belt. First, I'm going to scream at all of you--protect your children!<br /><br />In school, church, athletic, and other programs, there are abusers and child molesters out there. And, of course, there are abusers within homes by caregivers, parents, friends, and relatives. This is horrendous. I truly want to vomit as I write this. Children are often innocent and helpless. We need to keep our eyes open and attempt to keep our children safe and unharmed.<br /><br />As parents, we need to teach our children right from wrong. The child in the video which I mentioned above, was being punished for illegally downloading from internet. Sure, that is wrong. However, if the child's father had parked illegally and received a parking ticket, would the child have had the right to beat the father with a belt? No way. I know many of you might disagree, but I believe if it is not appropriate for adults to hit other adults, then it is not appropriate for adults to hit children. You can argue with me, but that is my stance.<br /><br />Please, in the best interest of your child's mental and physical health, do not abuse your children. Also, report any abuse that you might suspect or oversee. I beg you...Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-71621412465297355622011-08-28T18:19:00.003-04:002011-08-28T19:03:05.909-04:00The Responsible Athlete...From forgetting (or neglecting) to put dishes in the dishwasher to attending practice without a water bottle, kids are irresponsible. We all know this is the case.<div>
<br /></div><div>Is self-responsibility important? Absolutely. Many (but not all) of us tend to baby our athletes. You know what I mean--allowing her to head to school late after a long weekend of travel, buying a water bottle or Gatorade for the vending machine after she forgot to bring one from home, or purchasing a mouthguard from the soccer pro shop because she "lost" hers and didn't place the spare in her bag.</div><div>
<br /></div><div>I admit it--I'm guilty of enabling my kids. I don't want to see my children miserable and forced to miss a game or practice when I can <i>fix</i> their mistakes. For the most part, this is human nature.</div><div>
<br /></div><div>That said, I beg you to allow your children to make their own mistakes and pay the consequences. He or she will without a doubt become more responsible and remember to perform key tasks. For example, if he misses a game because he doesn't have a mouthguard, he'll surely remember to have it with him at the next game, or if he attends enough practices without water or gatorade, eventually he'll become thirsty enough and remember to pack a drink.</div><div>
<br /></div><div>Now, please remind me to practice what I preach...</div><div>
<br /></div><div>Kim</div>Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-68736766066509366672011-07-18T15:41:00.002-04:002011-07-18T15:55:31.063-04:00Congratulations USA Women's Soccer!In yesterday's World Cup finals, Team USA won 2nd place behind Japan. Wow.<div><br /></div><div>Sure, the US ladies should have taken gold (in my opinion) because they beat Japan many times in the past. However, things worked out differently. And 2nd place in the world is still amazing.</div><div><br /></div><div>Hang in there Team USA--you will return. Redemption is sweet!</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-45844619665309751922011-05-17T11:22:00.013-04:002011-05-31T22:26:20.499-04:00Games Gone WrongMy twelve-year-old daughter played her last regular-season lacrosse game a couple of weeks ago. From the opposing team arriving late to the chit-chatting, unfocused players, I have some (many) complaints.<div><br /></div><div>First, the opposing team went to the wrong field and arrived at the proper field over an hour late. If one team knew which field was the proper field, why didn't the other team know? I don't have an explanation, but waiting an hour was ridiculous. Coaches or team managers, please double check and confirm game times and locations prior to the game. Double please.</div><div><br /></div><div>Next, the refs blew the whistle every two seconds to stop play in order to explain, in apparent detail, how to play the game properly. Yes, the rules are confusing, but the kids spend lots of time in practice learning right from wrong. Game time is game time. Refs, please get off your power trip and let the girls play the game --let the coaches coach.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Overall, the chit-chatting players appeared to be very focused on checking out the newest nail polish (or whatever they were looking at...), not on the ball. Coaches, pay attention to the players on the field and remind them to keep their minds on the game.</div><div><br /></div><div>Parents, don't yell <i>come on honey during </i>a game. That simply doesn't make the cut in my book (unless the child is less than 10 years old). Would you say that to your <span style="font-style: italic;">son</span> on the field? No way (at least not at age 12). You would (and should) encourage him to run hard, play strong defense, look for passes, etc., and you should do the same for your daughter. There simply are times when "honey" is appropriate and there are times when "honey" needs goes away. <i>After</i> the game, go ahead and say<i> great job honey</i>. Well, say it after he scores a goal or makes a nice pass, just not in the heat of a tense moment.<br /></div><div><br /><div><div>Is lack of focus a big deal? Yes. No matter what level of play, these girls signed up to play on a team so I expect some effort. I realize that on occasion things go wrong, refs don't show up, or a player has an "off" day. But many times these sort of things can be avoided.<br /><br />Sorry if you disagree. I know there are plenty of focused, die-hard, athletic girls out there, in addition to many dedicated coaches and refs. Trust me, there is room for more...<br /></div></div></div>Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-948960200809298862011-04-02T08:06:00.005-04:002011-04-04T22:13:24.052-04:00Bubble ParentsAt a high school lacrosse game last week, one mom pointed out a "bubble parent". What the heck is a bubble parent? I was clueless... (It appears that I was a step behind on this term.)<div><br /></div><div>Well, I've been a bubble parent in the past and didn't even know it. When a high school athlete plays on junior varsity and varsity, they are considered on the "bubble". So a "bubble parent" is the parent who usually ends up watching both junior varsity and varsity events consecutively, resulting in a really, really long evening.</div><div><br /></div><div>My advice to all of you bubble parents out there:</div><div><ul><li>Prepare to sit for four hours or longer.</li><li>Dress warm (if the event is outside).</li><li>Bring snacks or money to purchase snacks.</li><li>Bring a book to read during time outs or between games.</li><li>Enjoy the social time with other parents.</li></ul><div>Bottom line if you are a bubble parent, it is a good thing that your child is playing on both junior varsity and varsity teams. Try to enjoy the success!</div></div>Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-8310209245976159642011-02-28T19:54:00.012-05:002011-03-01T21:38:04.389-05:00Equipment OverloadBecause swimming and hockey seasons are about to end and lacrosse season is facing off, I'm back to buying equipment....again.<br /><br />Does the purchasing every end? Nope. There always seems to be pads, sticks, heads, blades, cleats, running shoes, helmets, goggles, or other necessities to buy. The list is endless.<br /><br />Over the years I've changed my opinion on where to draw the line. I used to be against top-of-the-line equipment. But now I've changed my stance slightly. Here are a few guidelines based on my experiences:<br /><ul><li>Shoes/Cleats: Higher price doesn't actually mean better. I go for the best support and fit. You can often buy a shoe on sale (often last year's model) for less, and still get a decent shoe. My lovely daughter Breea is the queen of ankle sprains. For her I choose the best fit no matter what the cost. I'll do anything to prevent that child from rolling her ankle. I find that when Breea wears better fitting shoes, she runs faster and seems to injure her ankles less.<br /></li><li>Mouth guards: My kids tend to repeatedly chew on their mouth guards. The protection is necessary, but for the most part, the inexpensive ones work. If it were my mouth, I would buy the heavier, more protective models. I value my teeth. But for my kids, I go with the version he or she is willing to wear, be it expensive or inexpensive, because I want any sort of protection for them. I know that in most cases when I'm not looking, those mouth guards are not in their mouths.<br /></li><li>Protective pads: Within reason, expensive pads are beneficial in many cases. However, there is often a drawback--pricier pads are heftier/thicker models (in many cases), which sometimes restrict movement. Better protection might mean restricted physical play. My son Clark often chooses the lighter, less protective models, and he pays the price with injuries. When a puck hits his shins, the resulting bruises are not pretty.<br /></li><li>Hockey/lacrosse sticks: With hockey sticks, higher priced sticks might be top of the line. Yet top-of-the-line sticks are often not the best sticks for inexperienced players. I've heard my husband scream after many games as he curses parents for buying fancy, do-it-all, high-end sticks for their beginner hockey player. It just doesn't work that way. Lower-end models are a good choice in many cases. On the contrary, a high-end, expensive lacrosse head is sometimes a good choice for a beginner player. It might not be completely necessary, but a high-end lacrosse head can help players of many levels better control the ball.</li></ul>Needless to say, I try to research sports equipment and weigh the pros and cons of various models. I take into consideration my children's personalities and varying levels of play, then I attempt to make good decisions with each individual purchase.<br /><br />There are times when pricey equipment is necessary, and there are times when I put my foot down and say <span style="font-style: italic;">no</span>. That's just the way it is. If my kids don't like it, they can do their own research and present their case. Sometimes I win the battle. Other times I give in and spend a fortune...<br /><br />Young athletes live and learn in the game. Do your best to guide your kids' purchases and eventually let them fly on their own.Kim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-67268809477545065952011-01-06T19:08:00.004-05:002011-01-06T19:59:30.380-05:00Expect the Unexpected: Homeless Man...Yesterday a Columbus reporter randomly interviewed a homeless man, Ted Williams, on Interstate 71 in Columbus, Ohio. As it turned out, the guy has an amazing voice. The video was posted on YouTube and within a few hours the story took off. If you haven't heard the story by now, click <a href="http://allday.todayshow.com/_news/2011/01/06/5776553-homeless-mans-golden-voice-kicks-off-today">HERE</a> to see a clip on the Today Show.<br /><br />This story is a true inspiration--anything can happen at any time. I have always believed in the saying <span style="font-style: italic;">expect the unexpected</span>. None of us can know precisely what will happen in the future. There is always an amazing athlete out there who doesn't get a college athletic scholarship, an unknown athlete who ends up a star football player at a Division I University, or a small town basketball player with a recreational league background who gets drafted in the pros.<br /><br />Parents, let's face it...good and bad things happen in youth sports at all times. Teach your children to keep reaching for the moon and to stay faithful to their dreams. Resilience is key.<br /><br />On the flip side (because I can't keep my mouth shut), I hope and pray that Ted Williams (the homeless man) stays away from drugs and alcohol. Williams' own mother mentioned on <span style="font-weight: bold;">Inside Edition</span> (1/6/11) she feels that her son is weak and she is concerned about his ability to stay on a good path. Fingers crossed that this story continues with a fairytale ending.<br /><br />As parents, please use good judgment and emotionally support your children...through the good and the bad, the expected and the unexpected. Your child might want to be in the NBA, yet ends up satisfied playing on the local rec team. So be it. Or, of course, he might end up in the NBA.<br /><br />I wish Williams the best and I hope all your children's dreams come true.<br /><br />KimKim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2101085393382324070.post-41775793663616224692010-12-31T19:07:00.004-05:002010-12-31T20:01:16.433-05:00Looking Back at 2010...As 2010 comes to a close, the economy is struggling, companies are laying off employees, kids are continuing to participate in youth sports, and colleges are still awarding athletic scholarships.<br /><br />Looking back on the year, here are a few random observations in no particular order:<br /><br /><ul><li>Parents are still having babies and secretly wondering if their new little one will play pro baseball one day.</li><li>There will always be crazy, overzealous, out-of-control sports parents.</li><li>Parents are insanely traveling with their children for youth sports events from the East coast to the West.</li><li>Almost the entire City of Cleveland is angry at Lebron James.<br /></li><li>When one family pulls their child out of travel sports because they can no longer afford the costs, there's always another family ready to step up and pay for their less talented child to play in the game.</li><li>We all lose sight of reality of one time or another.</li><li>Stopping a determined young athlete is nearly impossible.</li><li>There are many grateful parents and kids in the world.</li><li>2011 is a new year with new opportunities.<br /></li></ul>We wish each and everyone of you a wonderful New Year!<br /><br />Kim and EdKim and Ed Cristofolihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04054411165226258594noreply@blogger.com0